'She keeps trying to force me to give them away': A shedding showdown sparks family feud, but cat community steps in with adorable advice to avoid a kitty cat-astrophe

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
May 13, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

This devoted pawrent is caught in a hissterical household conflict. Their spouse has been pouncing on one issue for months: the never-ending cat hair. Despite this feline fan doing all the heavy litter-lifting, feeding, grooming, and even limiting the cats to certain rooms, the fur still floats. And now, with a one-year-old human kitten in the mix, tensions are rising faster than a startled tail.

These two cats have been part of the family since they were tiny toe-bean bundles. At just a year and a half old, they're still playful, loving, and absolutely pawsome. But the spouse has reached her furustration limit and keeps insisting one of them must go. The shedding has become the catalyst for an ultimatum that's breaking this pawrent's heart.

They've tried everything short of shaving the cats bald, but the fuzz remains. Is there any whisker of hope to keep the peace without rehoming a beloved floof? Or is this a case where love, loyalty, and lint just won't mix?

Cat lovers, what would you do when your heart says stay, but your partner says shed?

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  • 01
    As the title says, my spouse for months now has been pressing me on getting rid of one of our cats due to shedding. She finds cats hair everywhere, I've tried to implement some changes like not allowing them into the bedroom, only keeping them in certain areas of the house, unfortunately the cat hair is non-stop. I've
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  • 03
    bought a hair brush, reusable lint roller, I do all the cleaning for their cat litter, feed them, buy them everything and pay for all their vet bills. I take care of all matters when it comes to the cats. We have a 1 year old and she seems to be extremely frustrated with the cat hair, we've had them since they were a couple weeks old, they're 1 and a
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  • 05
    half now. She keeps trying to force me to give them away despite me being attached to both cats and trying to take care of everything myself. But the cat hair she cannot stand and it's becoming too conflicting now. Cat hair is never gonna go away, pets will always shed, and I don't know what else to do, what advice would you guys provide me with?
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  • 07
    Narrow-Scientist9... It's going to be hard and you're going to miss her, but sometimes we have to make tough choices. Don't worry, you'll find another wife someday.
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  • 08
    blimpyk26 This is a pretty weird request. She's no allergic, she just simply doesn't like the hair, but agreed to two cats? Please don't get rid of your cats, OP. That's pretty heartless of your spouse honestly.
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  • 09
    Itsoktobe It sounds like she might be overwhelmed by the 1 year old and is directing it toward the cats. Any time I'm overwhelmed, the dog hair from my three huskies feels like a much bigger issue and starts bothering me more. than it should. So, I understand the problem..
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  • 10
    but her solution is a no-go. I would make it clear that getting rid of one of your cats is not an option. Ask spouse what specifically she needs to feel ok with the presence of the cats. Having a no-cat zone is a good start.
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    Brush the kitties daily. This will help more than anything else. Also, consider a robot vacuum.
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  • 12
    paisleycatperson this is not about the cat hair.
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  • 13
    oliviasmomm are we totally sure cat hair is the actual problem?
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  • 14
    DrSid666 Get rid of her. Cats are loyal
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  • 15
    Mixed BeansBlack... I don't know...it doesn't seem fair to them considering you both have known and experienced for a good amount of time now that cats shed. Was this not considered before?! :(
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    finwooduh Brush them! I have 4 cats- 3 short coats, 1 fluffybutt- and the short coats seem to shed more than the long!
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    Also, s ks to be in your position. I wouldn't tolerate my partner suggesting this type of thing, and especially for a dumba fur everywhere reason as cat
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    Individual-Roll2727 I wouldn't get rid of my pets for anyone. If you have long hair cats perhaps getting them clipped at the groomers will help, especially if you are living somewhere warm.
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  • Cats are furrever family! Let’s face it. Getting rid of them just isn't an option. You’ve got this! Pawsitive vibes and teamwork will get you through

  • 19
    EUGsk8rBoi42p Found out my ex gave away her cat and now I don't miss her anymore.
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  • The real question is: who’s shedding more, the cats or the spouse? Honestly, sometimes the fur feels more like a tiny reminder of how loved we all are—whether we want it or not!

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    Slow-Boysenberry... pets are not disposable things. thats really unfair of her considering you sound like you are doing everything you can and are compromising. would she force you to get rid of a child if they started bugging her? because thats what she's basically askinh
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    holyhibachi Nope, I'm extremely allergic to cats and find them gross. I now live with my wife's cat and even though they're not my favorite animal I clean up after it, feed it, help groom it, take it to the vet, and load myself on allergy meds because I know how much the cat means to my wife and I don't believe in bailing on pets.
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    RangaMum More humane to rehome the spouse. My husband wants me to rehome our 17 year old Bengal because he meows a lot, as he is old and gets lost etc. I pointed out I would rehome him before I would rehome my cat. You take on an animal then you take them in for their lifetime. Tell your spouse to grow up maybe.
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    Minute_Type9894 I didn't believe it till I saw the results. Brushing.every.day. makes a huge difference. It's can be tedious, but you need to get into a habit and make it a commitment. I couldn't believe how much more unnoticeable the hair became. It's there no doubt, but the volume of shedding has reduced massively.
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    We also got a shop vac and rubber bristle brush. Treats everytime the vacuum was on got my cat to develope a positive response and now I can just vacuum brush him once a week. And the rest of the week a few 5 minutes combs are enough. Brush em!
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    Icantthinkofitt Divorce
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  • 26
    dzeltenmaize Roomba vacuum is my best friend. I find your spouse's reasoning repulsive. Pets are family, I don't understand how she hasn't bonded with them. I can only assume she's feeling overwhelmed with all the changes and postpartum issues.
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    SnooRobots 4759 I'm sorry for the loss of your marriage.
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  • 28
    ThatAnteater8868 Get rid of spouse? If not, hoovering more would probably help
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  • 29
    imperfectchildofG... Marriage is a life long commitment. You don't "get. rid of your spouse" because cat hair is bothering her. That is your wife. You have a child together.
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  • 30
    Unfortunately, you may have to give up the cats, or make them outside only cats. You don't break up your family over cats. Despite what people now days say, having a broken family does impact the child greatly. And I love cats. I was almost homeless because I refused to put my cat down and Instead pay for all the vet bills. But I was
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  • 31
    single, I didn't have a husband and child to think about. Do not break the vow you made. I know you love. your cats. But you need to love your wife and kid more.
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    TheTurfMonster I have Siberian cat and deal with this exact situation. My Sib sheds what seems like a pound of hair a week. It's insane, but I love him enough to manage it.
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  • 33
    Look, you're posting this in a cat sub, which is like asking vegetarians if you should eat meat. You'll only get biased. advice that favors keeping the cat at all costs. Take their advice with a healthy dose of skepticism.
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  • 34
    Here's the thing, your spouse's feelings about their quality of life are completely valid, and frankly, they should matter more to you than the cat's preferences. Living with constant pet hair can be genuinely distressing for some people - it affects their clothes, furniture, food, and even breathing. This isn't just a minor inconvenience.
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  • 35
    If you've genuinely tried all solutions (regular grooming, air purifiers, designated cat- free zones in the house) and there's still no workable compromise, then it's reasonable to consider rehoming the cat. You can still control the rehoming process to ensure your cat goes to someone who will provide excellent care.
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  • 36
    Sometimes being a responsible pet owner means acknowledging when a situation isn't working for everyone involved. Prioritizing your marriage doesn't make you a bad person or a bad pet owner.
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    Agitated_House75... Robot vacuum, and take the cats to a professional groomer for bath and brush on a regular basis. Make a world of difference! (my allergic kids grew up with 3 cats, and I'm a groomer) :)
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    Ok-Offer-541 I got a 'mitten' brush and it seems to get quite a bit of fur (opposed to a regular brush). I hope you can find a solution and keep your cat.
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